Normally, I’d consider this a private matter and not share publicly what is happening with The Husband and I. You see, there are times that life is so crazy that my headache becomes part of the scenery. I walk around for days with a dull ache that doesn’t seem to go away. Then… then, something strange happened today. I broke out in hives. My normal M.O. is a raging migraine, but thinking back on the week I realize that I’ve had a headache for 3 days but simply didn’t pay attention to it. How could I pay attention to my aching head when there are better things to spend my energy on?
Long story short, The Husband turned in his packet for Flight School last week. This has been an effort of monumental proportions. The Husband and I have dedicated our lives for the past 5 years to getting to this point. Our plan was clear, concise and very well communicated to everyone involved… from step 1.
When the local AF people went to enter the information, they received errors and finally got to the point where they were told The Husband was past the age to be eligible for Flight School. Of course there is paperwork that can be filled out for an exception. Of course he will fill it out and have it done.
The hard part… the hard part is knowing that I’ve watched this beautiful man, my husband, dedicate his life to this country only to be told that his country is putting his dream on hold. Waiting for an answer, that may not come until September… I’m not sure what to do with him. It seems like the light has been sucked from his life. He feels like he’s wasting his time, that the reward will never come.
The truth is that there is nothing anyone can say or do to make it better. I wouldn’t normally even share this information with our family. I’m a private person, believing that there are friends that I can lean on, who will be there to let me vent my own pain. My pain is watching this happen to a hero. This man, my husband, is a highly decorated hero who wants nothing more than to continue serving this country in the best way he knows how.
This is a game of waiting. This is a test of faith. If I could… I would take every bit of pain and sadness from him and make it my own. Instead, I will ask that you, my dear friends… would pray for our family. Pray that the anger dissolves, that the waiting is brought to a quick end. Pray that the people who touch this Exception packet read with their hearts open… recognize the hero within the pages and give him a chance.
It sounds really stressful, and I’m so sorry that the emotional toll is coming out in physical ways. As for the hives — Zrytec is the best antihistamine for them.
Waiting for the unknown is one of life’s givens. Unfortunately, the time between not knowing and knowing can seem interminable, and that’s precisely when despair and hopelessness can sink in. But have no fear, continue to do all the things that you truly love, that are the essence of who you are, and what makes you function at your very best. Those are the things you have control over. Enjoy them a lot!
Kanani, you are a doll. Thank you so much. I do need to put things back into perspective and concentrate on the healthy, happy things that are happening.
Many prayers are lifted up for you guys. I know there isn’t a “right” thing to say to make the anger and frustration dissolve, but I do hope that you feel some comfort knowing that people care and have an inkling of what you are going through.
Thank you Heather. I’m more worried about my husband’s anger than my own. I feel like this is going to be okay… I honestly believe that we’re in God’s hands… it’s just hard to get that through when anger is something so much easier to hold on to.
I am sorry to hear this. Yet another man has devoted his time, efforts, life, family, and emotion to servicing his country and…. well shear disappointment! This is a hard time, I am sorry you are having to go through this!! You and hubby are in our prayers! I hope all else is well! Take Care!
Lindley Cara. LINDLEY CARA. You can make this better by coming to see us! At least for a bit… Seriously though, thank you for the prayers. I know you deal with your own crud from the military, but we wouldn’t be who we are without the military.
We have been in similiar situations where you feel helpless and you know your Hero is deserving of much more then they are receiving. I am so sorry..I wish I had magic words to make it all better. It is NOT a waste of him time..he will be rewarded.
((((HUGS))))
Praying for you!
So sorry you’ve hit this glitch. I know the waiting can be the hardest part…
I have not checked in in forever (I’m sorry)….
I think I was meant to check in today…. I too have had a lot of waiting in my life.
From our experience(s) I can say that every time we’ve had to wait…. and the “plan” went “off course” we found out that the timing – thanks to GOD – was absolutely perfect.
Walk in faith my friends. It’s not easy. But. Put one foot in front of the other, in faith.
I think that’s when we really make God smile.
Well son of a gun…..this is crap! I will pray and pray hard…it will all work out! It always does….I am praying for you sister!!!! Tell the hubs I said hello!
I wish I had some words of wisdom, something to say that would make it all better, but I don’t. The AF has thrown us some serious curve balls over the past several years. Things that didn’t make sense and left us with a WTH attitude have turned out to be some amazing opportunities. All I can offer is prayers for peace and acceptance of what He has in store for you.
Thank you for this. Really. We’re still struggling, still dealing with anger issues… but I still hold fast to the faith that He’ll work it out for us.
Now I understand…sorry Delta but I will send all my good thoughts that a waiver is granted.